Ups and Downs

I've been debating posting this blog, because I really want to keep everything very positive on here, but at the same time I want this blog to be real and a true reflection of what I am going through. So I decided to go ahead and post about something I've been struggling with recently along with the good stuff that's been going on. Most is good, really. I would say that a majority of the time I feel like my life is wonderful, that I am getting everything I want, and it is easy for me to stay positive. The one area that needs improvement, that I'm sure most people can relate to is money. I was doing really well for a while (when my husband couldn't spend money because he was working 24/7 in the military). Now I definitely need more of it in my life, not even to do great, fun things, but just to pay the bills and maybe have a little extra. Well, I guess if I am being honest, my husband and I probably make enough money, we are just horrible at sticking to a budget (trying to be nice by putting "we"). When I figure out our budget for the next few months it honestly looks like we are going to be just making it, that is if we actually spend what we are supposed to in the allotted areas. Wondering how The Secret works when one partner is doing it and the other one isn't and is in his same old habits. So, I'm looking for a miracle here! That was my little negative blurb for the sake of honesty on this blog and now it's time to get positive again! I am financially secure. I have no debt! I am grateful that I get to talk to my husband everyday now and that he is safe. Everything else has been going well. Weight is still coming off, I got to reconnect with some great friends for a weekend, spending a lot of time doing the "small stuff" that makes me happy. Loving my baby boy! Life is still good!

The Secret got my Friend a Good Man

I have a friend who I absolutely adore, but when it comes to relationships she is a bit of a pessimist. She always assumes that she is going to be alone forever and never find "The One". Most of her relationships are pretty short and have ended badly. I was talking to her about two months ago, telling her that she should make a vision board or a journal entry writing exactly what she wants in a man and then look at it every day. Not being sure if she would really do this, I had her tell me on the phone exactly what she wanted in a boyfriend.
Now fast forward to last night(approximately 2 months later), I get a phone call from her. She says she has been dating someone for a few weeks now and it is going great! Her exact words were "It's so nice to be with someone who you know is into you. No games." Turns out this is someone she has known and has been friends with for 4 years, but never looked at in a romantic way until recently. She said they have always had a great time together, but never thought about dating because neither of them wanted to date someone from work. I guess at the same time they let their guard down and decided to forget their silly rules and be open to what could be. Isn't it amazing! This person has been there the whole time, but just now her eyes opened to it. Goes to show you, never close any doors.
I told her how awesome I thought it was and how last time we talked, she was saying how she really wanted a nice boyfriend. She preceded to tell me that she did decide to implement The Secret, and she asked the universe to send her a man with these certain qualities. She wrote it all on a piece of paper, tried really hard to be positive and grateful, and she waited patiently. After about a month, her eyes opened to this man. She said that just being aware of what she wanted in a man helped her to see that this person had all those qualities. Good luck to them!
It's so nice to hear stories of how gratitude, positive thinking, and straight out asking for what you want is working in real people's lives!